"Precaution is better than cure."

~Edward Coke

The reason for us to be careful, buy the weapon or visit self-defense courses is a desire to be safe. A person feels a need to be safe from maniacs, thefts, animals. Some of us can even have a paranoic feeling while walking along a street at midnight.

She does. She had never had before one thing happened. She was heading home after work meeting approximately 11 pm. She was so close to Her house. Somebody started whistling. She looks over - nobody. She continued walking. A boy/man/transgender/monkey was running on Her. She runs without feeling Her feet to the house. A picky situation made Her feel unsafe, feel danger. She started searching for weapons and weapon permissions. One day She will get one - to be safe.

Safeness is such a thing that limits us in over opportunities, moves, goals, life. There is also another desire to feel safe. It is fear to be damaged in relation with sweetheart, friends, family, business partners. People are scared to be let down, spoken about, cheated. This pain can't be treated and forgotten. That is a reason for people to create a bubble around themselves and act by the principle "You attack first or you will be attacked". She knows that being attacked is not a good perspective, it is usually a way to lose. She knows (learns) how to win even by being attacked, but only in books. She is not strong enough to be attacked. The desire to be safe in Her relations made Her egoistic, foxy, manipulative, communicative, open to the world, active, but aggressive when it comes to safeness. In love relations, She needs to have plans B, C, D, CRM. She should be above. If She comes to him to talk and he talks about his girlfriend and runs away from conversations, She will attack him. She never attacks with words and crying blaming. She knows what She wants. If She can't get it She gets a little less - fuck him as a girl by being tender and brutal, sexy and shy.

She defeats if he says that he doesn't want relations and they would rather be friends as they were. She can be let with nothing. She will fuck him every time they meet. She knows how to fuck him by letting him lead the situation.

Responsibility. It is a huge thing in relations. She had a situation when he was all over Her, for Her, because of Her. She couldn't continue relations, because he is not a person that will attack by cheating or letting down. He fell in love with Her. She doesn't. She tried to put all the risks of Her attacking to the lowest level and brake out.

Remember we talk that we start caring about our safeness after feeling danger. Her life story is not long enough now to say that She was betrayed a number of times. But She had been let down in work, studies, relations with friends, boyfriends. There were small and silly things but they formed Her attitude to life and relations.

She learned a lesson: She needs to attack first in a case to feel safe and be attacked at an unexpected moment.